Why Do We Self-Sabotage?

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Have you ever felt like you're standing on the brink of greatness, but something within you holds you back? Perhaps you've dreamed of starting a business, writing a novel, or pursuing a passion, but fear, doubt, or procrastination have kept you from taking the leap. This invisible force, often referred to as Resistance, is a common human experience that can sabotage our dreams and aspirations.

Our "unlived life" represents all the dreams, ambitions, and potential within us that remain unexpressed because of Resistance. As Steven Pressfield so aptly writes in The War of Art, “Resistance is the most toxic force on the planet." It can cripple our spirit, stunt our growth, and keep us from fulfilling our unique potential. Pressfield argues that Resistance is the force standing between us and this unrealized life. But once we understand its nature, we can learn how to fight it.

Characteristics of Resistance

Knowing the nature of Resistance helps us anticipate its moves and develop effective strategies to counter it.

• Resistance is Invisible: It can’t be seen or touched, but it can be felt as a negative energy pushing us away from our goals.

• Resistance is Internal: It arises from within us, not from external circumstances, making it harder to pinpoint.

• Resistance is Insidious: It deceives and manipulates, lying to us and making us believe we’re doing the right thing by procrastinating or avoiding discomfort.

• Resistance is Implacable: You cannot reason with it. Resistance is relentless and will continue attacking as long as you pursue something meaningful.

• Resistance is Impersonal: It’s not out to get you personally. It’s a universal force that opposes everyone equally. Every human being experiences it.

• Resistance is Fueled by Fear: The more we fear an activity, the more Resistance we feel toward it. But this fear is often an indicator of what we must do.

Combating Resistance

The key to defeating Resistance lies in recognizing it as a constant, internal force that shapes our behavior, often without our awareness.

• Start Before You're Ready: Resistance waits for hesitation and uncertainty. The best way to fight it is to take action, even when you don't feel "ready."

• Break Tasks into Small Steps: Resistance thrives on overwhelming us. By breaking down large tasks into smaller, manageable steps, we can build momentum and weaken Resistance's power.

• Develop a Routine: A consistent daily routine can disrupt Resistance's attempts to sabotage our progress.

• Cultivate a Warrior Mindset: Treat the battle against Resistance as a war. Adopt a warrior mindset and approach every act of discipline as a victory.

• Use Fear as a Compass: Fear often indicates the importance of a pursuit. Instead of retreating, lean into it and take action.

• Embrace Imperfection: Resistance often tells us we're not good enough. Remember, done is better than perfect, and progress weakens Resistance.

• Hold Yourself Accountable: External accountability can create pressure that counteracts Resistance. Set deadlines, share your goals with others, or join a supportive group.

The invisible force of Resistance is a formidable foe, but it can be conquered. It's a battle that every individual must face, one that intensifies as our aspirations grow. Overcoming Resistance isn't about eliminating fear or struggle; it's about embracing them as catalysts for growth.

Don't let Resistance keep your dreams trapped in the shadows. Dare to confront it, take action, and transform your aspirations into reality. The potential within you is waiting to be unleashed. It's time to break free from the chains of self-sabotage and live the life you deserve.